Capturing A Guy’s Heart (The Stages That Men Go Through)

 

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It’s pretty general that when we (women) try to attract the opposite sex, we find it very easy and overwhelming. Is that because we were born seducers? Not really. Capturing a man’s heart is essential in creating a strong relationship and women somehow understand the reasons why men fall for them. Here are the mapping stages of how men start to feel something for you.

They Get Physically Attracted – It’s evident that most men rely on their visual representation. They initially fall for a woman due to physical attraction. However, that doesn’t mean that every woman should have to be entirely physically attractive because in most cases, men’s visible affection can come from their physical preferences as they sometimes set their standards. Therefore, physical attraction varies in a lot of forms. “Attractiveness is something more complex,” according to psychiatrist Fredric Neuman M.D.

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It’s Also About Chemistry – You might think that men are all about looks, but they honestly look for a woman that knows how to handle a conversation. Having things that both of you share an interest in is an excellent source of foundation when starting a connection. However, it’s not necessary that both of you need to have the same interest and hobbies because opposites do attract. The chemistry between the two of you matters because it will sustain your emotional and psychological needs while giving both of you an advancement of personally learning about each other.

Attitude Matters – Aside from physical attraction and chemistry, men look forward to having a woman with a positive attitude. It doesn’t mean that you have to create a personality that matches his preference. All you need to do is be yourself and embrace every imperfection that you have in a way that he sees it as something special about you. You don’t need to be perfect; you just have to be you.

Developing Trust – When men try to get physically and emotionally involved with a woman, the first thing that they try to establish is trust. It is something that they want to secure in the process of getting to know someone. When a man starts to trust you, he eventually tries to go deep into your thoughts and emotions so he can process a way for you to trust him in return.

According to Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D., “Specifically, some behaviors communicate and built trust and rapport better, whereas others are more suited for building attraction. While a healthy mix of both are necessary for keeping a relationship running smoothly, knowing which signal you are sending with a specific behavior is important as well.”

Long-Term Compatibility – A long-term compatibility matters in a relationship when both of you share the same values and goals in life. It’s like having someone that knows how to handle your psychological and emotional state when it comes to potential decision making. When a man sees that both of you can create a future together, there’s no doubt that he has already formed a strong emotional attraction towards you. “If they don’t mention you as being part of their life years down the road, they may not be as fully invested in the relationship as you would like,” said Connie Omari PhD, LPC, NCC.

 

The Comfort Stage – It is a phase where a man feels comfortable with you. It’s like he knows your emotional status, physical insecurities, behavioral problems, and psychological issues, and yet decided to stick with you because he knows you are more than those negative traits. He sees you as something essential for his overall development that’s why he values you more than anything.

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Men are not all about sweet talks and sex; there’s something about them that we need to unlock for us to understand that they somehow feel the same way we do when we fall for them.

Annoying Things That Men Do In A Relationship

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In every relationship, there’s always a time that we feel like we want to choke our boyfriend to death because of the annoying things he does. However, it seems impossible because we know that they sometimes don’t do it intentionally, or worse, they are not aware of doing it. So what are those kinds of stuff that could annoy us? Check out these things our boyfriend probably always does.

Messaging Takes Forever“Texting is used early and often in dating relationships, and while it might be easier, it does have downsides”, according to social psychologist Theresa E DiDonato Ph.D. Considering the situation, his excuse could be valid when he’s busy doing significant things. However, most of us require instant replies on messages. It annoys us when we have to wait for a couple of minutes to be able to get the response we need. In worst cases, we don’t get replies at all. Admit it, we always want a prompt answer, and if we don’t get it, it causes a lot of drama.

Phone Matters“Smartphones have made it far easier for us to stay in touch with relationship partners, even when we are geographically distant,” said Martin Graff Ph.D. I get it. There’s a lot of stuff on his phone that he probably considers important rather than spending time with his girlfriend. However, it happens to become annoying when it seems like it’s taking all of his time. Then we suddenly create these crazy ideas in our head that will soon start an argument.

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Not Complementing – Women are born attention seekers. We always love to hear good stuff from our boyfriends, and it sometimes frustrates us when we try too hard to put an effort into something, but we don’t get a compliment. Seriously, all we want is for our boyfriend’s say that we look pretty today or we did great. They don’t have to do it all the time but say it as they mean it.

Bringing Up The Ex – There’s nothing more annoying than hearing about his ex in every conversation. It’s like telling us that we’re not good enough to be in the relationship. It would feel like we are not entitled to be in a new relationship because all he does is compare and contrast everything with his ex. Men probably don’t want to create a conflict, but a woman is so sensitive on this matter.

Doesn’t Pay Attention – Please, the only thing that we want from our boyfriends is their full attention. When we try to say something, all we ask is for our man to listen and respond accordingly. They shouldn’t just sit there nodding while we currently have an emotional crisis. They have to be physically and emotionally present at all times.

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Forgetting Dates (Anniversary) – Yep, most women would probably go ballistic when their boyfriends forget their anniversary. It will feel like they’re not giving it importance. It annoys us because we tend to spend sleepless nights thinking about it not knowing that our men skip prioritizing that special occasion. It sucks!

I’m not generalizing all the women out there, but I know I perfectly created a valid argument when it comes to the top annoying things on the list. Again, these pieces of stuff shouldn’t have to become a reason for a breakup. You can always talk about it and work things out. As what psychologist Sherod Miller, Ph.D. said, “Couples need to learn a way to stay engaged—not withdraw or attack.”

8 Things I Want In My Relationship

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We probably have our preference when it comes to the kind of connection we want with our significant other. As for me, I have determined factors that need to be present in my relationship so it can help me develop healthy wellbeing. According to Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D., “By evaluating relationship choices on these emotional and practical levels, it is possible to make some sense out of seemingly confusing and contradictory romantic behaviors.” It’s not like I would demand things, but if ever I am given a chance to have a better connection, I would instead consider the important ones that add an impact on a healthy perspective.

  1. Communication – Expressing ourselves is one way that could boost our self-confidence, and as such, we need communication for things to work out. A simple yes or no won’t add value to a conversation. It needs to have a sensible flow of discussion. The willingness to communicate can mean a lot, especially regarding contrasting ideas and opinions. According to psychologists Barry L. Duncan, Psy. D. and Joseph W. Rock, Psy.D., “As relationships endure, communication sequences form patterns over time, and it is the patterning over time that is the essence of a couple system.”
  2. Security – As I get emotionally weak and helpless, I only want someone to hug me and tell me that things will be okay. I don’t require tons of promises to be able to get through the day; I only need a person that will take care of me at times when I can’t handle myself. I want that extra support I can get to accompany me through the moments of stress.
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  1. Show Interest – Showing some interest doesn’t mean you have to like everything I like and hate the things I don’t want. All of us need someone who is willing enough to value our worries, hopes, and desires. It will somehow strengthen the relationship when both of us can show interest in each other by paying attention to the perplexity of things.
  2. Availability – I’m not saying that I require attention 24/7. I only need someone to be there for me when I need them most. It’s like keeping the sense of responsibility as a loving partner that knows and sees you as an essential part of their lives. They solely have to be there in good and bad times.
  3. Honesty – The more I prefer to be in a relationship, I would want it to be filled with honesty. It doesn’t matter if things could be hurtful sometimes, as long as everything about it is true. No one requires a relationship full of lies, and therefore it is safe to say that the act of honesty will somehow help us in creating a better understanding of our relationship.
  4. Effort – Every substantial relationship doesn’t happen overnight because it has a lot of struggles. An attempt at keeping things together and progressively working on differences can help build a strong bond over time. Even if it’s a small effort, it doesn’t matter as long as it is valued and appreciated as a whole.
  5. Affection – Every person who is in a relationship needs affection. The particular value of expressing love without asking something in return is honestly one of the things that need to be present in a commitment. It can be demonstrated by any physical contact that somehow feels different in a lot of ways.
  6. Respect – One priceless thing that completes a relationship is respect. It helps in the cultivation of an individual’s personality because it holds a cultural value in making improvements in a relationship and in life as well. It gives you a sense of purpose in knowing your limits and capabilities during crucial situations. Respect always gives you a significant chance to stay focused and be the kind of person that you are.
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We need to understand that a commitment is not about chocolates and flowers. Handling a relationship is critical and requires much more significant importance because it will help us determine our self-worth as well as our capabilities in giving and acquiring love. John Gottman, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle, says “his studies show that couples whose relationships remain happy and stable know how to successfully repair problems.”

Food Therapy: How To Understand The Importance Of Your Food Consumption Process

There are a lot of different things that you need to eat to be able to attain the health benefits you need. It can be based on what your body is going through, and the choice of food that you have to consider may depend on the weather and your mood. “The food you eat can have a direct effect on your energy level, physical health, and mood. A “healthy diet” is one that has enough of each essential nutrient, contains many foods from all of the basic food groups, provides the right amount of calories to maintain a healthy weight, and does not have too much fat, sugar, salt, or alcohol,” as stated by Carol A. Gooch,M.S., LPC, LCDC, LMFT. However, in medical terms, the therapist uses food therapy to balance the disharmony of your health to be able to find and reduce the causes of certain illnesses such as depression and anxiety. The process should be able to make you feel better. So how can this help you? Listed are the things you need to know when it comes to choosing the type of food to consume. 

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The Connection Of Food In Psychiatry Treatment

People who suffer from depression and anxiety may benefit mental health by changing their diet. “Making little changes to your diet can add up to BIG health benefits,” says Elaine Magee, MPH, RD. So it is significant to understand the role of the food you eat and those you don’t because every type of food you take in can create a substantial impact on your mood, function, and development. It will become a practical basis to reduce symptoms of depression which is useful in psychiatric treatment. 

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Online Therapy Health Guide: What Your Lip Color Says About Your Wellbeing

We all have different colored lips that we thought are normal to see every day. But do you know it can determine the probable condition of your health? It will allow you to assess the things you need to do and not to do to be able to keep yourself healthy. So here are the things that your lips can tell you about your health based on an online therapy health guide. 

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The Perks Of Staying True To Your Diet Plan

 

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Whenever I hear colleagues say they are following a meal plan to get fit, I always have the urge to ask, “For how long?” It is and will never be my intention to grill them about it; however, color me curious regarding the importance of staying true to a healthy diet to others. “[We] are often surrounded by people who are dieting and talking about food,” says Linda Hamilton, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist specializing in eating disorders.

In case you’ve been at it for a few months, then that’s awesome. You must see the beautiful changes it makes on your body. If you just barely started several days ago, well, the odds that you will push forward and ignore all the food temptations are 50:50. But perhaps the fight-or-flight decision may come swiftly in favor of the diet plan once you know the perks of sticking to it. “Mindful eating means learning to mindfully nourish ones self-esteem in the Zen moment,” according to psychotherapist Ronald Alexander Ph.D.

  1. The Steady Meals Sustain Your Energy

When you don’t eat breakfast, you may become exhausted quicker than your peers who have a meal in the morning. If you start eating on time yet your regime mostly consists of sugary and greasy foods, it won’t improve your situation much.

The first reason why you need to keep up with a stable diet is to avoid being in the above scenario. Fresh, real ingredients can energize your system, not fast foods. In case you want something sweet for dessert or snacks, take your pick from a wide variety of fruits.

  1. You Can Lower Insurance Fees

Considering you applied for life insurance while you are overweight or obese, you surely know that agencies may impose different regulations on the fees you have to pay. Their mindset is that you’ll be receiving medical attention more than an individual of average weight, so they tend to ask for more cash from you. It will not take place anymore, though, once you sincerely follow your meal plan.

  1. Being Productive Is No Longer Difficult

From several studies I read that aimed to identify the effect of an unhealthy diet on the brain, all of them almost have the same result: it dumbs you down. You can’t draw proper nutrition out of burgers, fries, and milkshakes; that’s why the chemical that’s supposed to enhance your memory may diminish. If you only eat sparingly, then you may resolve your productivity issues alone.

  1. You’ll Feel Positive Every Day

How depressing can it be to try on different clothes on a daily basis because it’s already hard to find a shirt or a pair of pants that’s effortless to pull over your figure? Add to that the fact that you’re breathless after ten minutes of walking briskly and your boss often calls you out at work for your lack of focus. You’ll be able to become optimistic again once the diet helps improve your size and well-being. “In reality, having a healthy relationship with food involves indulging along with being flexible and kind to yourself,” explains Rachel Goldman, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist focused on health and wellness

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  1. Your Lifespan May Increase

Some think of obesity as a death sentence, and I honestly agree with them. The extra pounds showing on the scales bring you closer than ever to diabetes and cardiovascular diseases – health problems that stay in stealth mode until they knock your system down. When you stick to healthy meals, however, you’ll lose weight and have a better opportunity to live longer than your doctor’s assumption

7 Advantages Of Cooking Meals At Home

 

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Moving to one of the major cities in the world is a dream come true for a lot of millennials. When you lived in a small town for most of your life, being in the metro feels as if you are a step closer to fulfilling your goals. Any job you can think of is available, and it’s effortless to build connections with various individuals.

Despite such benefits, though, what I don’t appreciate about the city life is the abundance of restaurants in every block. Yes, you get to try different cuisines regularly, but you also fail to hone your cooking skills, which can make your mama proud. I’m not just saying to the ladies, mind you – guys need to learn to prepare tasty dishes too in this lifetime. “Now, most of us think that eating out is a treat, and that indulgent meals are a special reward. But this study found that women were significantly happier and less stressed after eating at home, and after eating healthier meals,” said Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D.

In case it’s still unclear why cooking meals at home is a great option, find out its seven advantages below.

  1. You Know What Goes In Your Food

Creating a meal by yourself is important because it makes you aware of each ingredient that gets mixed with your food. It is mainly important when you are sensitive or allergic to products like dairy, nuts, etc. While you may ask a chef in a fine-dining establishment to customize a dish for you, that may not be possible when you’re in a fast-food chain where everything’s ready beforehand.

  1. The Expenses Won’t Be Too High

The retail prices of the dishes you see on a menu are typically high because the owners need to take taxes, the employees’ wages, and other miscellaneous fees into consideration. If you cook at home, however, you’ll only need to pay for gas and groceries that can last for a week or so.

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  1. You Can Choose Healthy Ingredients

Healthy living is difficult to achieve when your friends always pull you towards burger joints. But when you have cooking skills, you may entirely skip going to such places and prepare delicious foods with better ingredients. “Start at the supermarket”, suggests Jaclyn Lopez Witmer, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist in New York. “Give yourself plenty of time to shop.”

  1. It’s Easy To Savor The Meal

Regardless of how beautiful the ambiance is at your restaurant of choice, people tend to wolf down the food and leave, especially when there’s a long queue of diners outside. Its downside is that you can’t savor every bite. You won’t have to be in a hurry to finish your meal, of course, if you made it yourself at home.

“Allow yourself to get curious about the smells and colors as well as how the ingredients change as they combine,” says Denver psychotherapist Brittany Bouffard, LCSW.

  1. You Have Control Over The Portions

Dieting is useless once you go to food joints that serve dishes in large portions. It’s all good in case you have someone else to share it with, for instance. Considering you’re alone, though, you may need to finish everything in one sitting. At least, when you create the food in your place, you can make something delicious without the high probability of overeating.

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  1. It’s Possible To Prepare Weekly Meals

Being a busy person isn’t a valid excuse either to not cook meals at home. Feel free to adopt meal prep ideas in which you only need to fix dishes once for the entire week. You merely have to divide them into different containers – microwavable or not – and reheat the food during mealtimes.

  1. You Can Serve New Dishes To Your Loved Ones

Cooking also allows you to satisfy the craving of your beloved friends and family members for great food. When you invite them over, you no longer have to order from a restaurant and wait for delivery for 30 minutes or more. They can feel your affection better as well through your home-cooked meals.

7 Reasons Why You Should Pen A Book

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Writing a book was one of the most daunting dreams I ever had for as long as I can recall. Even during my teenage years, I’d attempt to write, but I’d always end up pushing it at the bottom of my priority list.

My first reason was that I needed more life experiences to make my work extra believable or interesting. A couple of years later, I said my knowledge regarding different writing techniques wasn’t enough. It was when I couldn’t give any more alibi to stop myself from scribbling the plot down that I thought, “Well, it’s now or never.” According to cognitive psychologist Keith Oatley, “Almost all human cultures create stories that, until now, have been rather dismissively called ‘entertainment’. I think there is also something more important going on.”

Was my first book a success? Nope – I barely got copies sold online. But was it worth all the trouble? Yes, of course! Below are some reasons why you should pen a book already.

  1. You Can Exercise Your Freedom Of Expression

Off the bat, the best thing about writing a book is that you can express yourself without feeling judged. Therapists, in fact, recommend this activity to their patients who can’t voice out their issues. By the time you reach the concluding pages, you may no longer feel unfamiliar about self-expression.

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  1. You’ll Learn To Organize Your Thoughts

Are you a scatter-brained individual? Being a writer can help you improve that characteristic for the better, you know. Since there are a lot of pages in a single book, you’ll have no choice but to compartmentalize ideas so that you can lengthen each chapter. It can also help you stop misplacing your stuff and have a peace of mind.

  1. Learning Becomes A Natural Habit

In case studying wasn’t your strongest suit when you were young, it can change now once you become an author. For your work to gain more attention, you can’t merely speak about anything without giving it much thought. You may then naturally read other books or articles on the internet to increase your knowledge base.

  1. It Pushes Your Limits

As mentioned earlier, a decent book isn’t just a three-page literary piece. Even a storybook has over ten pages, so it isn’t for the faint of heart. What’s great about writing one, regardless of the genre, however, is that you’ll be able to encourage your brain to produce more creative thoughts every day. If that doesn’t sharpen your memory, nothing else can. For psychologist and writer Ryan Howes, Ph.D, “There is so much to learn—about people, psychology, and writing itself—that I’ll never run out of material.”

  1. Your Connections Will Grow

When you have a book that a lot of readers can relate to, they will reach out to you. Some may even become your new friends, while others may want to beta-read for your next work or introduce you to influential folks who can turn your book into a motion picture. All in all, many exciting things can happen when you build connections with your readers.

  1. Inspiring Others Isn’t Impossible

“Inspiration sparks creativity, and helps us make progress on our goals”, according to American psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman. Though your story may seem absurd in your head, don’t let it prevent you from writing it down. Reading books offers individuals a chance to escape reality and stay in the little world that authors make for them. Whether it’s fictional or non-fictional, any literary piece can motivate people to refine their decisions and even save others from doom or death.

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  1. You’ll Leave Your Mark On This Planet

Finally, a book is a timeless part of yourself that may never be forgotten even when you die. Others may make more copies of it in the future; the cover design may change as well. But what won’t ever disappear is your name on that masterpiece.

Is It Time To Get Married?

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Many people want to get married for so many reasons. Some individuals have decided to tie the knot with their loved ones at a young age. On the other hand, many persons had done it when they were a little older. However, the reality is that there is no timeline when it comes to getting married. Sometimes, when you find the right person in your life, evMarriage coach Lesli Doares, author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage, says, “Being married is about joining two lives together, not giving up one. Being content in your own skin means you won’t be looking to your partner to fill voids in your life.”erything will click to the point that both of you will decide to get married.

Unfortunately, there is always a big part in your life that will always wonder if getting married is the best choice at the moment. Because of this, we have decided to come up with an article that can help you make the best decision about your life. Our primary objective is to guide you in determining whether or not it is about time to take your loving relationship to the next level. Are you ready to settle down? Here are the top signs to look out for:

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You Have A Stable Job

There are tons of things that you must take care of when it comes to getting married. One of which is the increase in your day-to-day expenses. Keep in mind that planning a wedding can be expensive, especially if your partner wants a grand celebration. At the same time, the first few years of the marriage can also be financially challenging. Because of this, you must have a stable job before you decide to get married.

You Know Your Partner Completely

Another great factor that you must look into is your connection with your current parent. Are you comfortable in having him around in your life? Do you feel that you can spend the rest of your life sharing everything with him? Most importantly, are you confident that you know a lot of things about your loved one? If you answered yes to all these, then getting married is probably a good option for you. On the other hand, if you still think that you are clueless about the real identity of your boyfriend, then be sure to think twice before tying the knot. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman of The Gottman Institute says, “A good marriage must have a rich climate of positivity” and advises that we make “regular deposits” to our emotional bank accounts.”

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You Are Mentally Prepared

You must also take into consideration your mental health or wellness. Keep in mind that you must take your condition seriously. If you believe that you are suffering from an illness or a vexing problem about your overall wellness, then be sure to find treatment first. Do not rush the process of getting married just because you want to get away out of your miserable life. Instead, deal with all your problems and issues first. Make it a habit to solve each conflict one step at a time. When you do this right, you will be amazed at how ready you can be for a beautiful wedding ceremony and marriage.

“Once we have made the decision that we have found the person we want to be with and commit to, the work begins. A big part of that work is making many other choices,” says Kurt Smith, Psy.D., LMFT, LPCC, AFC. Getting married is not something that you have to do right away. Make sure that you are ready before you do something. Think twice because it is an essential thing to do.